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The time of the Winter Solstice is the time of the longest nights of the year. Darkness triumphs – and yet, gives way and changes into light. The breath of nature is suspended. I wait while within the earth, in the cold darkness, the sprouts of spring are transforming into the infant regrowth to come.
I envision the coming dawn, when Mother Earth gives birth to the divine Child Sun, who is the promise of the summer. I beckon the Sun from the womb of the night. Mother Earth turns the wheel once more.
Since Winter Solstice is a solar festival, I celebrate by fire and the use of the Yule log and candles, bringing light into the dark.
It is a time to let go of all fears, all doubts, all outworn ideas, all projects finished – anything in my life that holds me away from the new beginnings that will lead to new growth. It is a time to let go of the past and walk toward the light.
On these longest nights, I renew and rebirth my body, mind and spirit self. I plant my seeds of intention for renewed focus, truth, love, friendship, prosperity (in its many forms) and health. I send positive energy to those I love and for the same that they may find an easier path in the new year.
It has been a challenging 2013 for me, for the loves in my life, and for friends of all sorts – my wish for you and me is that we walk into 2014 with hearts not so heavy and positive resolutions to the struggles we all face. And that we find love and light, peace and contentment in the new year.
Namaste – I honor you – and you …. and you … and you!
The concept of this blog is that if you can find 365 things you love about your spouse, significant other, or anyone in your life for that matter, then you have an incredible chance of that relationship lasting forever. As it happens, at this time of my life, those around me about whom I care very much are in various stages of relationships and yet each scenario seemed to have the promise of benefiting equally ….
My stepdaughter and her sweetie are engaged and getting married in four months. A sweet way to begin their married life together!
My son and his wife are going through a very difficult time right – re-evaluating the very core of their 13 year marriage. Maybe this would help them strengthen all the good things that brought them together and help them heal the difficulties. Maybe … maybe not – but at a time like this, introspection and sharing is never a bad thing.
My daughter is at the beginning of a very new relationship – her list would definitely be different – or over the year evolving – a list not to share, but perhaps to build on and if the relationship grows, to share in a year or so.
And then there is hubby and me … and I am just so much in love with him as we approach the end of our 6th year together (this photo was from 2008 – 6 months into our budding romance)!
I am compelled to make my list and then tell him one reason each day why I love him.
Can you list 365 reasons why you love someone in your life? Challenge yourself – and in the meantime, have a wonderful Christmas – Hanukkah – Kwanzaa – Yule – however you celebrate this special time of the year.
And here’s to another year – 2014 – with the hope and promise of love and peace – health and prosperity (in it’s many forms) – to you and yours!
2012 – A good great year in so many respects! And I am grateful for all the wonderful people and things that came my way, make no mistake! And, it was the year that rather proved to be action driven by habit. Particularly the bad ones. Harrumph …. ‘nough said, nothing to be done about what is past.
2013 – has every possibility of being even more life-changing – in good ways! I don’t recall a year starting recently where I have felt so encouraged … engaged … full of INTENTION for positive change and growth. It’s nice for a change.
The Villa Privata (click for my first professional photos!) is now starting to take flight! “Engagement Season” is in full bloom (next to Valentine’s Day, Thanksgiving to Christmas is the crazy time when tons of engagements occur) and I am now receiving almost one inquiry (if not two) a day! Weekends are becoming work play days touring brides and the loves of their lives and/or families around the Villa and listening to their visions for their perfect day … that’s not work … it’s …. amazing! The energy that has gone out is now returning multi-fold! That alone is creating more energy ….
I joined Weight Watchers this week … I know, I know, this seems rather incongruous for someone who has had gastric bypass surgery … but the fact is that the regain I’ve experienced over the last four years is pissing me off … now I co-relate this with the fact that I fell in love four years ago and I’ve been happy (and therefore a bit complacent) as I’ve ever been especially the last two years … AND I promised myself that I would NEVER EVER in my life again be morbidly obese. Never. I have the tool to avoid that … what I have not been able to convince myself of is ACCOUNTABILITY! I am forcing myself into accountability by joining WW – by committing to weighing in once a week … committing myself to TRACKING what I eat … BITE IT, WRITE IT!
I started back to the gym this week … walking to start … in spite of Achilles heel tendonitis …. then moving on to circuit next week. It’s been too darned cold to walk the park by the river a mile or so from where I live or ride my bicycle …. BRRRRRRRR!!!
As a family we are seriously changing gears on working with my 13-year old emotionally disabled grandson …. last year ended in a parting of the ways with the public middle school ED program he was attending. The class of 30 ED students with one teacher and 2 aids was simply out of control and had him in a constant state of high anxiety pushing him to aggression and schizo-effective behaviors at school and because the teacher didn’t have the time to properly deal with him (or any of the students, all of which have behaviors), ended up either being placed in “on-site suspension” (sitting alone in an adjacent classroom most of the day with no breaks other than to go to the bathroom) or being suspended from school for 1 – 3 days. There was no behavioral support plan being followed (again no time) … and it got to the point where we engaged an advocate for him, and then an attorney, to force the school district to provide the required services for him. The district’s response? Get him out of their hair into a private school specializing in high-functioning autism and other behavioural issues. Today we start touring schools …. and he loses another week’s instructional time. BUT his whole little, anxiety-ridden life is on the road to improvement with his family firmly planted behind him and on his side.
Hubby learned (from his eye doctor) that he has high blood pressure this week … so the improvement steps I am taking are flowing right down to him … as I told him, I had one husband drop dead of a heart attack 20 years ago … I’ll be damned if I’m going to do that again! Since I do most of the grocery shopping, it will be easy – and he pretty much eats what I put in front of him! No more Mr. Nice Guy Girl!
INTENTIONS, not resolutions. baby steps … small goals …. positive changes … leaving not so healthy habits behind and creating new ones.
So that’s where my 2013 is … what are your INTENTIONS for 2013? What negative habits did you leave in 2012?
Namaste … I honor YOU! Please don’t forget to honor yourself.
Another lovely bit of wisdom from the wonderful folks at Story People ….. Happiest of Holidays, Merriest of Christmases … stay tightly warm and safe in the arms of friends and family! Be grateful for every little thing in your life …. and be sure to share a little love and compassion with a total stranger …… Namaste … I honor you …Itty Bitty
I am always amazed at how quickly time passes. Days turn into weeks, weeks into months … months into years. And so it is with keeping in touch with my loved ones – both family and friends.
Perfect example? I haven’t seen my brother and sister-in-law since November. How did that happen? We went to see Trans Siberian Orchestra last November together. Nice dinner and then the show … great time – we always get along great! My niece had a baby on Thanksgiving – a few days after the show. I saw her and the baby while she was in the hospital. My grand-niece is four months old now! My brother & sister in law were suppose to take a little, quick trip to San Diego with me in January but her best friend died suddenly and unexpectedly a few days before we were set to go … January turned into February, into March … and now April. I haven’t even talked to them since Christmas. They live 6 miles away.
I have a multitude of good friends that I’ve now gone as much as five months without talking to them. We used to talk every week or so! We’ve emailed a few times … but is life really that busy? It is .. but I also know there is absolutely no excuse for us not communicating and interacting more often. It’s really one of those WTF? things.
Part of the reason I think is that we are each going through some challenges. But isn’t that exactly when family and friends pull together for support? When we stop and SHOW UP for each other? I am guilty of not reaching out … and I think they gave up on reaching out to me.
We seem to have replaced face-to-face time, phone calls, and even e-mails with reading about each other’s lives on Facebook. There’s something wrong with that. And I’m as guilty as anybody of letting this happen. Or perhaps it goes along with my other issue of being “STUCK” and unmotivated.
All I know is that it’s not working for me. I miss my family and friends and there’s nobody to blame but myself for the lack of communication. It’s time to reconnect – face-to-face, on the phone, more frequent emails … there are times when I think I need to abandon Facebook …. I’d certainly have more time to call my family and friends!
So here’s to you, all of you who are near and dear to me …. Call me! I want to hear from you! I promise I’ll call you …. Let’s MAKE the time to get together soon – and often. No more excuses.
And to all my new blog friends, do you have the same problem? Do you lose sight of your friends and family because you are wrapped up in your own little world? Have you lost touch with people near and dear to you? How will you … how can you … reach across that empty space to reconnect? And most of all … Namaste … I honor you …